New season, new score, new do.

I had to part company with my prospective business partner. All perfectly amicable, but it wasn’t working out. Some good work came out of the process, and a few new ideas presented themselves, but once again I’m left wondering what to do with my life. A trip to the salon and a little retail therapy didn’t fix anything, but it definitely made me feel better.

The change in the season comes as a respite, a welcome relief from the late summer heat. Suddenly the weather is so much cooler and I can break out the winter wardrobe. I’ve sometimes found the transitional season hard to manage but this year I arrived with a plan. I’ve been steadily building a capsule of black and white as core neutrals and I’d been on the hunt for an oversized white sweatshirt for a little while, a team player to style with jeans or a skirt, and of course the fur wrap, which I’ve been reaching for repeatedly lately.

This little number appeared at the Amsterdam Fashion Institute shop and I fell for it instantly. Their Individuals collection is a series of small runs designed by the students and it changes very rapidly. I rarely buy anything there but I always make a point of checking them out so I can see what the newest talents are doing. Unfortunately, there’s no way of knowing who designed what. This is a pity, because whoever came up with this masterpiece of ingenious draping surely has a bright future ahead of them. I think it will be a key player this season, if I can resist the temptation to unfasten the knots to see what shape it is underneath.

As for the haircut, Angie tactfully asks the other day if I was growing it out, and I was inspired to reevaluate. I’d enjoyed the contrast between the dyed crown and the natural undercut, and I wanted to try something with a bit more body that played better with my specs, which have become a permanent feature in my style. I brought the challenge to my regular hairdresser.

I’ve been visiting the same stylist for many years and we have a good relationship. We met for the first time around 2000, when I needed a trim and randomly walked into a salon where he was renting a chair. I walked out with the best cut and colour I’d ever had and he’s been cutting my hair ever since. In the meantime, he’s opened two salons and built a successful practice at the local television studios. He’s an excellent hairdresser, a talented businessman and a great friend.

Few of his clients are willing to experiment, so he likes to push the boundaries when I’m in his chair. And I trust him. This week he worked together with one of his juniors, another colour enthusiast, to craft a winter look which evoked the ombre effect of the grown-out roots, tinted to harmonise with the natural ash brown. They agreed on purple and went to work. I’m as delighted as ever with the result, although I may ask for a shorter fringe next time.

Oh, and would you believe my sister found me the perfect lipstick? It’s Velvet Rope Brat Pack, a luscious true red by Lipstick Queen. It feels delicious and stays on for hours, but I’m still amazed that she picked out just the right colour. She always gives the best gifts. I have to find something really special for her at Christmas.

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  • Cerinda replied 5 years ago

    That is quite a terrific piece.  Interesting juxtaposition with the fur, too.  And positively smashing hair!

  • Sara L. replied 5 years ago

    Great outfit!  I love the juxtaposition of the fur with the knotted sweatshirt.  I think your hair turned out great.  The color is really lovely.  I hope things work out for you on the business side.  I've found your posts on your creations fascinating.

  • Astrid replied 5 years ago

    I love the new hair! Totally changes your look.

  • UmmLila replied 5 years ago

    Oh, I do love that color for your hair

  • shedev replied 5 years ago

    That is a great sweatshirt. The hair is awesome.

  • minimalist replied 5 years ago

    wooooaaaaahhhh your hair!!!!! I like my own cut & color well enough, but you just gave me something to plan in advance if I'm ever going to be in your area. Amazing!

    And that lipstick not only looks fantastic on, it comes in a beautiful case. (I've been trying new lipcolor; looks like Nordstrom has this.)

    Developing business and artistic partnerships can feel harder than dating. At least, to me the stakes always seemed higher. I'm sorry that didn't work out, and I hope that this makes space for something better that will become clear sooner rather than later.

  • Style Fan replied 5 years ago

    Your hair is incredible!  I love it.  Great sweatshirt.  It is a very interesting piece.  I hope things work out for you.  You are a creative and adventuresome soul.  I enjoy reading about your designs.


  • chewyspaghetti replied 5 years ago

    Your hair looks great!

  • Runcarla replied 5 years ago

    Love your hair. The colour is inspired, and the actual 'do feminine/pretty, which I think can work better with some of the strong architectural shapes you wear.

    On the other hand, the knots in the white sweat shirt look like little rabbit ears or half-bows. As you pointed out, the designer has some talent - to be able to combine what seems to be opposites into an appealing garment. Sometimes artistic looks can look unapproachable, and oftimes designers eschew 'pretty' in favour of austerity.

    I always felt that Alexander McQueen was able to keep some 'pretty' in his garments, even while persuing artistic expression.

    Hope this makes sense. Math and Fashion are the hardest subjects...

  • Suz replied 5 years ago

    You look amazing! I love the hair -- it's fabulous, especially with the lipstick. Rich, graduated, interesting, and very complimentary to your complexion. I'll bet it's even better in the sun. 

    The shirt is also amazing. A really great statement piece that at the same time seems wearable. I like the way it drapes and those knots (or whatever they are) are exceptionally cool. 

    As for your parting of the ways, that is indeed sad and difficult to process and I'm sure you'll be thinking hard about what's next. The life of an artist is not an easy one. So many hurdles large and small, yet so much joy from the work when it is working. 

  • Angie replied 5 years ago

    LOVE the new Killer 'do. It's almost bobbed. Fab rainbow colour too. 

    Sorry the biz venture didn't work out. At least you tried! Onto new and better things. The shirt is a work of art. Go sell it in Japan. 

  • DonnaF replied 5 years ago

    Love your hair!!!  And, well, everything else.  I'm as curious as you to see what is under those knots. . .And since the sweatshirt(?) is white, how do you keep it clean and how do you clean it?  I'm a practical mom at heart.

    It's disappointing and disheartening to hear about the split with your prospective business partner.  I hope that at some point in the future you will be able to say that it was all for the best, and had it happened further down the road, it would have been an unmitigated disaster.

  • bonnie replied 5 years ago

    Wow, you look terrific!!

  • Firecracker replied 5 years ago

    The whole outfit is amazing, Approprio. I love the knotted top and how it falls from the shoulders. It's perfect with the asymmetrical skirt, and I can imagine it with your cool jeans, too. The Trippens and furry sleeveless topper add interest without overtaking the look. Your new 'do is fabulous--I love the soft red color.
    I'm kind of in awe of your sister's ability to choose the perfect lipstick for you. I have such trouble finding the right stuff for myself, let alone someone else!

  • shevia replied 5 years ago

    I am getting a real Andy Warhol vibe from the first picture - but totally original also. A good, creative hairdresser you can trust is a mighty valuable asset. Great to see you and love the lipstick!

  • Eliza replied 5 years ago

    Love it all! That cut is stunning and the color beautiful. Great dramatic outfit. You are sorted for whatever comes next. All the best.

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  • Bijou replied 5 years ago

    I love the new do! As someone who loves Japan and Japanese culture, I think Angie is right, your designs are works of art and would do well in that market.

  • lyn67 replied 5 years ago

    Love the new hair-really edgy!) the new lipstick,and the knotted top is fab, too! I certainly wouldn't t resist to see how  knots are done but OMG, how do you wash and iron such an architectural  piece ???

  • approprio replied 5 years ago

    Aw thanks all! Killer eh, Angie? :D

    Yeah, it's a setback, but minimalist as you say, it's harder than dating, it's like a marriage. We'd have been too dysfunctional. And DonnaF, you're right, better to know now than later on.

    But it's OK. It was two steps forward for one step backwards. I'm getting over it. There are new plans in the pipeline, some of which may involve selling shirts like this one. As for washing the thing, well, lyn67, I dunno yet. I don't think it'll need ironing, but spillages will be a call to immediate action. 

    Sorry to let this trail. I've been working on those pants and the afternoon got away from me. Should be able to report on those next week.

  • Kate replied 5 years ago

    Love the top, and the hair is fabulous. Excellent lippie color too. Sorry to hear about the business venture, but these challenges, tough as they are when they happen, inform what you do going forward. Challenges are often opportunities in disguise!

  • annagybe replied 5 years ago

    Fantastic outfit and I love the hair. That sweatshirt is amazing.

  • LaPed replied 5 years ago

    My oh my, you are so lucky to have such a solid ongoing relationship with your hair stylist, and such a perceptive sister! And WOW that top. Looks like the new season is shaping up nicely for you! Can't wait to see those trousers. 

  • Sally replied 5 years ago

    Love that would look great with just about anything. As for the hair,what a gorgeous cut and style.

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